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Originally Posted by HopefullyLost1211
I think you're awful hard on yourself Marvelousness. You have nothing to feel ashamed about. You are not "less than" anyone else. Feeling "less than" is not the same as being less than. It can really help to explore feelings and thoughts...to be sure we aren't accepting negative thoughts about ourselves which are not true. I hope I don't sound preachy....I only want to support you. I may have already said it could help you to think about the type of person your father is/was...his relationship with you and with your mother. He was your role model for a man when you were growing up. There could always be exceptions but research indicates that women tend to partner with someone who is similar to their father...it's not an obvious or conscious choice but psychologists have noted that pattern.
You have already developed a lot of insight as a 22 year old. I'm in my late 30s and still figuring these things out! 
Thank you for sharing your truth here on PC. I believe that's an important part of healing.  |
I love my father dearly and I think he is a wonderful man. He has always treated my mother with love and respect. So I have always looked up to him and he always tried his best to make sure I knew how a man should act towards a woman. So in the beginning, as I said, my ex seemed too perfect. Too good to be true. My ex fooled both of my parents as well when they met him. They both loved him (of course up until I told them a few red flags after the breakup). He was a perfect gentleman on the first meet but then my father had an event that he was working and my ex slipped away as soon as it was over, not even staying to say hello to either of my parents because he “had to work in the morning”. This pissed me off. I’m convinced it was to avoid talking to my father. He told me previously that my parents made him nervous, that he didn’t understand or know how to relate to them (they’re both artists).