I will also give you a non T example of why I wont allow it in my life.

Growing up, I was constantly told "Your family is always there for you" "You will never be closer to anyone than your family" yet, all we did was fight and argue, as children, my siblings and I were always ignored by our parents...or yelled at for asking things.

I remember once saying out loud watching a tv show "I wish our family was like that" and mom quickly chimed in "That's TV. Families are not like that" and I truly believed that well into my adult life.

I remember seeing so many of my brothers friends mock him behind his back or seeing people in general being bullied by so called friends. My friends were mean to me. I remember being about 12 and having a panic attack over one of my phobias and I thought I'd try to be honest and tell a "friend" about what was going on, the next day, I as endlessly mocked at school because she had told so many people.

You see people being married for decades, they get divorced. You see best friends or family members kill each other. You see people turned on all the time by people they were close to or trusted.

My very first session T called me "Highly aware" and was saying I noticed things most people don't. I've always been like that, it's probably why as a kid I knew protecting myself was the best way to go.

I can't see any GOOD, other than temporary fun or memories, that come from closeness with someone but you can have fun and memories without that too. I have no good answer, so many people are hurt by closeness in their relationships.