Thanks, this is an eye-opener for sure and finally the exact issues I was deeply working on such as the tendency to allow such things to happen and take on all the blame and keep it a secret drenched in shame, well, somehow without their help in fact because they are so bad at help, I have taken a step out of that typical way of seeing common in abuse.


In other words, I got so frustrated that I was forced to realize it's not me, it's them. And then not try to figure out why which would drive me nuts, but to push the whole completely horrible crazy-making behavior away.

The second therapist did something that is terrible in addition. I told her that I was dealing with someone who had a sketchy money handler and has dementia so that funds were not okay, that this was hard to sort out, and also very shame inducing for me just as an issue. That I really had just enough to get by the holiday season alone with food and shelter.


She seemed totally understanding and said she'd hold the bill for now and wait till at least the first of the month or even longer so that I could figure what was going on and pay her then.

But what did she really do?

She cashed all the checks, even going back months, the day after, leaving me overdrawn nearly 1000$ and with only 3$!


I call saying I have no idea what to do, she is on her way out and my partner or his money person spent that much in a day? She then says not a word about the checks and tells me how bad my partner is, that I needed to do a 12 step type thing and not have any contact for a month. But how do I get funding, I asked? she said she had to go.

I didn't find out what happened until I opened my bank statement and saw that she did this and never told me. In some ways this is almost worse than the first therapist. She actively endangered me and lied while pretending to be saving me from the abusers. Gross!