Thank you I can feel the empathy and it really helps. I am very concerned too. I don't really know what is going to happen and I'm so exhausted and depleted by all the stress I can barely do much on top of everything.


I have Medicare not from age but disability. I have a tiny amount of funds and basic medical care but it doesn't seem to help with much else. I have not yet filed for a divorce so am entitled to some support which currently pays for housing but nothing else, and is not really reliable with the dementia and money person problems. I am seeing if there is a way around this but I can't figure that out without an attorney.


I was denied an attorney in my own current case so that has taken up a huge amount of my energy. Finally someone offered when I could barely speak to the judge two days after surgery from the injuries caused by the force of the arrest.


Since I'm listed as the perpetrator, I have been turned away from domestic violence places more or less. One is trying but it doesn't have much to offer. This has happened before so I'm not surprised anymore. The whole system is broken.

I would qualify for some things but the legal system would have to admit they arrested the victim and they won't. If they did, I could get domestic violence counseling and relocation funds. Again I would need to figure out a way to get that to happen and I have no idea. It seems to be something no one can answer.

I wish I could work, even though I'm exhausted, because with some funds I'd be safer, could save, and move away to places to start over, but I can't so I'm truly trapped. I am crossing my fingers that something happens to change this, but right now I don't think so.