Hello again KnitChick,


I've seen some clinics offer DBT group in conjunction with individual therapy to support it. I don't know if that's possible for you or even if it's something you'd like. But I thought I'd point out that DBT group does not exclude additional support or other formats at the same time.

Sorry to hear it's so difficult. I've been away from PC for something like six months, so I'm skimming forums here. But I saw a post or two from you elsewhere and it seems like you're doing a lot. I hope you can see that you are really doing more and better than I'm sure it feels like at times.

I hear you about the energy drain. I haven't been on PC because I'm so drained from working on my stuff. (For the audience, I suffer from AvPD -- so massive social anxiety and self-esteem issues ... and I don't really trust people.) I'm currently volunteering. Of all unbelievable things: a kind of tutoring, but I don't always know what's going to walk in the door each session so I often have to improvise. Stress. Hypervigilience. As you can imagine, I try to focus entirely on the other person, the problem at hand, and staying entirely in the moment. Then I go home and decompress. Sometimes you'll see me collapsed on the fender bench imitating an old dishrag.


My point is ... it's helping me and I feel I'm getting a little better with that and other "behaviorial" things. Growth and resolving long standing problems is usually painful and consumes much of our current energy reserves. We need to pick our battles and work on what we think is most beneficial to us right now. Only you will really know if the DBT group is helping you, but it sounds like you're saying you want to stay, if you can manage the stress and triggering. Just remember there's no shame in asking for additional support.


Sorry if I rambled a bit here. See the sidebar.



TL;DR Pretty much what the others said, but longer.