Honestly .. when the thought comes in your head "I am not the child she wanted" reword it "She was not the mother I wanted either .. but, none of us get exactly what we want from people because nobody is perfect"

Childhood emotional neglect leaves scars on us that never totally go away, but we can learn to use them for our betterment rather than our detriment. First thing is learning how to re-route those negative messages you hear though.

For instance, some of mine were:
"You will never amount to anything."
"You are a disappointment."

I had to change those things to
"I can do what I choose to put an effort in."
"You disappointed me too, but we both survived."

Then just pushed through until I understood those things to be true.

I wrote out my feelings as to what had happened and how it had happened and what I would like to have happen so I could move on.

Things like that helped me heal.

Later you find ways to give yourself strength and/or purpose using that past hurt. It helps heal you further and empowers you too. ❤