I am devastated that my sister S would not help me to make peace in a major family fallout. She was callous when I certainly felt any person in the world would have been sympathetic at least.

This led to a text where I poured my heart out for help and she rudely blew me off, dismissively. Then silence. Forever. She never called me again. She used to call me every day and we had a very good relationship.

This happened months ago.

A few weeks ago, I called her together with my husband. He spoke to her to say how hurt and devastated I was from this fallout with her and how much we have been suffering. (No exaggeration). She was hostile and said that I ‘did not deserve any empathy or compassion because I contrived the whole thing with the family’. It turned into shouting and me calling her a F’n B.

I did not contrive the family fight at all.

She never called again after that, nor I, and I made it clear to her that I am so devastated from her treatment of me that I will only be in her presence again if I have to.

I loved my sister.

Beyond eating some shyt sandwich myself by just ‘letting this go and acting as though nothing happened’, I don’t think there is anything more I can do here.

I suppose I just can’t accept that kind of treatment from someone who claims to have loved me and acts like this.

The ‘should I bother?’ Title of this thread is because I am considering what to do to try to repair the relationship, as I wish I could and feel horrible about never speaking again to my sister. But she obviously isn’t reaching out to me, doesn’t have these same feelings about me.

Any helpful thoughts? Please be gentle. I’m coming out of a major depressive episode from this incident.