I think it’s different for everyone. I’m not really sure how it’s supposed to work and if it’s beneficial. I am attached to my T but so far I don’t experience it as painful. I have been in a relationship before (not with T, but authority figure) where I was very attached and it was very unhealthy and painful and ended very ugly. This doesn’t feel like that. I would be very sad and if he left like yours did but I also know now that I would survive and be ok eventually. I’m not sure he realizes that I’m attached or how much but I prefer not to talk about it much or make the therapy about it, I worry that it would actually make it worse, as I need to deal with things in my life. And I also think that the attachment has lessened a bit, I don’t think about him all the time anymore, though he still is the support I need, and I don’t worry about him leaving me anymore. Obviously I will be devastated if that happens but I just don’t want to fear everything in life anymore since fear has already stopped me from lot of things and I still wasn’t able to avoid pain in life. So now I choose to take risk once in a while. But that’s just me, obviously everyone experiences things differently and I’m sorry you’re hurting. Hope your new T can help you through it, I don’t tjink you need to be attached for them to be able to help you.