I guess I would count myself among those with a set of life experiences, including work, where your story is unfortunately all too believable, especially about victims being blamed and in the words of one campaign for social justice, the criminalization of the trauma response. A lot of Americans are naiive about the realities of what happens in the legal system and the supposed sources for help.

A battered women's shelter may exclude you from staying there if you have a "violent" background (although with the repeated problems of victims being arrested at least some know how to assess this properly), but they should be able to provide counseling and support to you, if they offer that. It might be worth another hotline call if you can. Otherwise, I hope that your lawyer is able to deal effectively with the system and things work out for you.