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Originally Posted by here today
Seems to me like your OP was about your needs, not him. Feeling love, and reliance. . .yes, he's probably not going to be able to meet them all but something about him, or the relationship, seems to help those feelings come up? So you can deal with them? As an "adult"?
That's in your signature line, so I know you know it cognitively/adultly, too.
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Well, dah, of course this is all about MY needs.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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