Here’s my take on it. If I can humble myself to swallow her ‘tough love’, I’ll consider it.

Me: I’m so upset over the facebook post with K.
S: That’s just K being K.

Me: Now Mom was snippy and we hung up over this. I’m so hurt!
S: That’s just Mom being Mom.

Me: Sister E just called and she says this whole thing is all my fault. The call ended really badly. I’m so upset!

She hears me crying. She knows my history of how upset this translates to....doesn’t she??? Zero support from her though in any way. Not even an “I’m sorry to hear all this.”