Me seeking her support ended in a text summarizing the situation and the depth of my pain over it. She responded she was going to get her oil changed. Then silence. Forever. Same game as Mom plays or she really just doesn’t care about reaching out to me.

Months pass, no interaction with her at all. Except a text on my birthday, “happy birthday” and a text when I SENT THEM COOKIES FOR CHRISTMAS to thank me and say they were delicious, to which no further conversation happened other than me responding “Thank you”. Then I called her, so hysterical my husband HAS to get involved now, so he is speaking for me to tell her how upset and devastated I am over this with her.

She instantly deflected by going into how happy she was we were back together. Sincere? I’m sure. But it was done as a jab in this case to take the focus away from her.

I can’t remember much of this conversation as I think I dissociated TBH, but I know she went double down on her nasty attitude and POV. She said that I “did not deserve any empathy or compassion because I had contrived the whole thing,” and “this is how she handles her daughter, (who was diagnosed BPD)” Incidentally, I never had one bad moment with her daughter. She’s a sweetheart who has so much anger...hmmmmm....wonder why.......