its the same thing with friends with benefits. both people might go into it not wanting anything more but eventually - someone does. it always happens.

women often substitute sex for love and not even realize it. i know that i did it from about 16-18. typical daddy doesnt give me enough attention kinda thing. so i felt like i had to have sex with a guy for him to like me and it ended up biting me in the ***. i didnt say no when i wanted to, i did things i didnt want to etc... so now that i have someone that i deeply care about, i feel like it doesnt mean as much. we cant do certain things because it triggers me. some things make me think of other guys and how crappy they were to me. it has been really hard on him considering ive had sex with 3 times more people than he has. so he really has had a hard time dealing with that. to me it was "i wanted sex. so i had sex with them." but he doesnt know that. so maybe even if it doesnt mess with your emotions, it might mess with a boyfriend/girlfriend's later on down the road. i dont regret anything because of myself - i regret it because i know some things have hurt my current boyfriend and i wish i wouldnt have done it. so just because you have the ability to separate the 2 doesnt mean everyone does and you might end up losing someone because of things that have happened in the past. or hurting someone because of it.