That is the hard part of living in abusive families. They do not consider their abuse to be of note, leaving you feeling as if you have made the whole thing up or that you are over exaggerating the issues. One thing they don't do is validate your feelings or even understand that it is alright to feel the way you do. If you feel that sharing how you feel with your family members will subject you to the "zebra and hyena" scenario then your feelings are valid. I felt this way when I was younger and it warped my sense of self and my ability to get my needs (emotional and physical) met. I hope you find your space to be you without others telling you how you should feel.