This is the fascinating thing about having a spouse in therapy: I will share some insight in response to hearing about a problem in her life, and she will kind of vaguely nod. The next day, her therapist will tell her the exact same thing, and she will come home eager to tell me all about the great new insight she gleaned in session.

So what I'm saying is that you're not the only person who needs a therapist to point out the glaringly obvious. Maybe their insights are worth more because we have to pay for them...