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Originally Posted by healingme4me
I saw your new thread about changes and sticking it out.
I wanted to extend my gratitude for having such a thread. Though, I'm still under a certain amount of stress, since first discovering your thread in November-i think, I've been able to tap into the dread that I was feeling. Much has happened since then and I'm sure the rough patch is yet to be over, but your other newer thread, I'm choosing to battle through this.
I'm owning my discomfort. Sure there is discomfort but it can be empowering to acknowledge that as it is and take steps, whether by reaching out -albeit an appointment date hasn't come forth-to HR. Telling others what my experience has been like, to better record keeping and moving forth with acknowleding the need to use more assertive/direct/non passive communication and also bouncing things off my T.
I'm choosing to stop dismissing my dread, see it for what it is and approach my days with a bit more purpose since the dread and drain was coming from places internally that I try typically to me to dismiss since it's more about personality conflict that when I brush off leaves me as appearing aloof and even more of a target. Unexpected boundary needs, indeed.
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I know about how appearing aloof can make you a target. That’s where I had to really learn to speak up for myself and I am no longer a target. I definitely speak up for myself now and my coworkers are aware of it.
I’m really glad you brought up this old thread. It wasn’t that long ago and things have changed quite a bit since then. Granted, there were years of grief and stress before this.
I think I learned a lot when all was said and done. I’m doing better at stepping back and not being so emotionally invested at work. I also worked on and improved areas of my work that needed improvement. I was very sensitive about constructive feedback and now I’m ok with it. I do feel disheartened at times because I don’t get a lot of positive feedback but that’s where the stepping back comes in. I was getting way too emotionally invested at work and taking things much too seriously. It led to personal conflicts as well.
Luckily a lot of positive changes were made by management so that the place has improved a lot. I would not have been able to do so well if things had stayed as bad as they were and I’ve definitely learned a lot from this whole process.
I’ve learned to peacefully exist in the muddled chaos of a fairly dysfunctional work environment. I can’t change it and life goes on. I manage to accomplish my professional responsibilities and let go of what I can’t control.
Thanks again for bringing up this thread. I have really wanted to reflect on the positive changes because I overcame some big hurdles. Never in a million years would I have thought I could have peace at my job. The transfer still hasn’t come through and I am still patiently waiting yet I’ll be ok if I can’t transfer.
Hang in there. It can be done. We can grow stronger when faced with total and utter crap. We really can. [emoji3590]