She hasn't specifically said that she isn't helping. She has asked me what she could do to be helpful, she's thanked me for asking for something specific that might be helpful, and she's made comments about maybe being wrong about some interpretation.

She's also admitted that she is not perfect, that she makes mistakes. Granted this is often after I've said something about knowing that she's not perfect.

Oh, the asking for something specific was when I was on the verge of disassociating. It was towards the end of a session and I could have left, I was fine enough to leave. I would have lost it once I got to the car. I told her that I needed her to talk about something different which is a very specific thing for me - it means to talk to me about something uncharged and analytical - a math/science principle, football, maybe something local in the news... ect.

Not sure when this was in your session, maybe because she was really trying to get you to refocus on the here and now, a way to ground but she felt like it wasn't working and possibly making things even worse.