Yes. A few stand out and normally I don't share details but talking about T helps right now.
1-- the hug thing. Being absolutely scared and ashamed of hugging someone, and getting to over 100 hugs with him and not having a care in the world about it, I actually miss it so much.
2-- When we were on a walk one day and I was saying how I didn't think I'd ever be assertive, I'm just too weak and nice. He said "Well you are assertive with me now" I didn't even realize it but when he shared examples, I was able to see it and I just got more and more, it helped the relationship grow in many ways
3--I didn't realize this one in time to share with him but I have never been able to cry in front of someone since I was a small child. It took me 6 months to cry with him. Then after that, I couldn't help it and it came out intensely the last few sessions. With the T yesterday, I cried almost instantly... for the first time in my life, with a complete stranger and I didn't even apologize.
A lot of people don't like my T because he "Crossed boundaries" and all that, but honestly he helped me more than most realize. I'm not messed up because of that, I just ****ing miss him and it's insanely hard somedays
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