This is 'Merica. Even if you weren't married, it is highly unlikely you could be "thrown out" of your home. I say this without specific knowledge of the law where you indicate you live. What I mean is absent a court order, you have just as much right to be at your home (and are you taking care of the farm animals in this weather anyway?) as your spouse. Please consult a family law attorney as I believe you could be disadvantaging yourself for the future if you "abandon" the family home.

Now, that doesn't mean you want to be where someone else doesn't want you, or that it is safe to do so. Maybe it's better that you are not there. But I am glad your T is supportive and I would continue to allow him to support you. I don't see any real "neediness" here.