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Old Jan 31, 2019, 09:28 AM
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight View Post
He believes that working through conflicts make a relationship--therapeutic or otherwise--stronger. In a way, I get that, because it shows you can survive them.
Mine did too and so do I. I was very reluctant to go see him again after our big rupture.... and I did anyway simply so I could at least share my thoughts on it, but it ended up bringing us closer, and yes it was a bit hard to trust him in one sense, but I also, in the end became more comfortable and trusting with him than ever before, of course part of that was me stupidly believing he wouldn't leave me

I don't think bring up old things over and over again is helpful though. I think had I brought up the rupture stuff months later and over and over, he would have gotten annoyed or distant, just as I would if someone did it to me. We were both the kind of "lets move past it" types... and thats why it worked so well for us
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