Honestly, this is pretty petty. And yes, I read your other threads. They are cut and paste of the same "score-keeping" list. You attribute an unsavory motive or attitude even towards mundane comments and actions (like someone laughed). (And I don't even want to know what "arrogant eavesdropping" could be.)

Sure, there's "not nice" stuff, but you are an adult, and this is jr. high school drama stuff.

Long/short, you all just seem to simply not get along. At least, as well as you imagine you all "should". So separate yourself from it if it bothers you that much. Seeking therapy would be a good idea, if for no other reason than to explore why you feel compelled to so often attribute negative attitudes towards others' words and actions and to break the unhealthy behavior of scorekeeping in relationships.

I don't say this to be mean. I am simply being straightforward. You seem to be bogged down with minutiae that may be keeping you from being able to see the larger picture.

I wish you luck.