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Old Jan 31, 2019, 05:17 PM
darkside8 darkside8 is offline
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Originally Posted by Waterloo12345 View Post
I'm glad you said that cause it validated my theory

Of course you are really into it, it's new, its fascinating, it's all to do with you. It's like a new toy.

I did the same and my understanding is that it's common particularly for those who might have an intellectualising type defence, perfectionism, workaholism response to trauma.

It took me a while to see what I was doing- being the prefect analysee- and then to make my therapist aware of it so she could call me out. Before that she thought I was the bees knees.

I also used it, and still do to some extent, as an avoidance of life tactic. But, I've recognised this and so try and limit it.

However there are some very useful insights I've gained that gave helped, so it's not all a waste of time, and it's merely supplanted other less functional avoidance mechanisms so....I see it as a win win as long as it is in moderation.

The other thing I thought was that your post was so well argued that I was like what's she running away from? What insights or vulnerabilities are coming to light to lead her into constructing this beautiful argument as to why she should stop therapy? Does that resonate?

Therapy has been very challenging for me but I can see benefits (1 yr later).

It's really affected my work, because I spend so much time recovering but then before that I was not working at all so...needs must.

I've not actually answered your questions only addressed your first 3 lines which I reckon is the nub of the matter
Your response is great - thank you. I wouldn't dare change this if I’m honest because it feels too good. I think my underlying fears are 1) if I make progress in therapy, it'll be because of ‘the’ therapy sessions and perhaps not so much what i’m being taught, and 2) how I’ll cope when therapy will ‘have’ to eventually end. I guess 2) relates to 1). Feeling better because of therapy, oh you’re doing better now, you don't need to be here anymore, anddd back to square 1.