Interviewing T's and processing what goes on with them, thinking about what your options may be -- maybe that process in and of itself is helpful in processing things? Sounds like you're not going to rush into anything. You're protecting yourself in that way, and avoidance may be a useful skill in that regard.

What is it about the 2-3 weeks post surgery that you are afraid of? Not having enough distractions, not being able to distract yourself? Will you still be able to use the internet? If so, then you have us.

In my experience, suffering alone isn't such a good option, though, once one has had an inkling of a different kind of experience, even though you lost it/him. So thinking about what you might want to do after the surgery and recovery seems like a good idea. No rush on any of this, is there, if you can prepare ways to make it through the time post-surgery on your own? Just my perspective. And, who knows, maybe one of the T's you are seeing and interviewing might have some good ideas on that.