I also agree with what has been said. Being a doormat is not fun nor is it healthy for you. And, yes, The Dance of Anger, is a great source. I have read and heard it twice. I believe I like to listen to it better than to read it. She (the author ) has also written other books that hone right in on problems such as ours. You are a human being - you need to take care of yourself and put your needs first. I understnad wanting to keep the peace so you agree to everything - I have been there and I still fall into that trap on a frequent basis - but I am learning to respect myself more and more and to make certain that I take care of "me" in order to have something of value to share with others.