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Old Feb 02, 2019, 12:58 PM
Revu2 Revu2 is offline
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Hi Warmup and Saidso,Yes, things might have continued as you say, or some other way. Everyone is sovereign and my attempts following your tips or any number of others may, or may not, have opened a space for me to celebrate for 20 seconds.
Wow! Such a load of work! As I could continue to hold my thoughts and feelings and was offering a celebration, in the moment, as a chip into the conversation, and as I was supposedly enjoying myself at a party, intuitively it felt Too Much Work and for what effect? Dunno.
So I let it drop, and inwardly reopened my file on Theory of Talk.
Re: Emerson. He doesn't use the term Tonic Speech, that's mine. In his essay on Friendship he waxes both poetic and prosetic on the value of this chosen relationship at its best.
O friend, my bosom said,
Through thee alone the sky is arched,
Through thee the rose is red,
All things through thee take nobler form,
And look beyond the earth,
And is the mill-round of our fate
A sun-path in thy worth.
Me too thy nobleness has taught
To master my despair;
The fountains of my hidden life
Are through thy friendship fair.

I awoke this morning with devout thanksgiving for my friends, the old and the new. Shall I not call God the Beautiful, who daily showeth himself so to me in his gifts? I chide society, I embrace solitude, and yet I am not so ungrateful as not to see the wise, the lovely, and the noble-minded, as from time to time they pass my gate. Who hears me, who understands me, becomes mine,--a possession for all time.

Friendship, like the immortality of the soul, is too good to be believed.

There are two elements that go to the composition of friendship, each so sovereign that I can detect no superiority in either, no reason why either should be first named. One is Truth. A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him I may think aloud.…But a friend is a sane man who exercises not my ingenuity, but me. My friend gives me entertainment without requiring any stipulation on my part. A friend, therefore, is a sort of paradox in nature. I who alone am, I who see nothing in nature whose existence I can affirm with equal evidence to my own, behold now the semblance of my being, in all its height, variety, and curiosity, reiterated in a foreign form; so that a friend may well be reckoned the masterpiece of nature.

The other element of friendship is tenderness. We are holden to men by every sort of tie, by blood, by pride, by fear, by hope, by lucre, by lust, by hate, by admiration, by every circumstance and badge and trifle, but we can scarce believe that so much character can subsist in another as to draw us by love. Can another be so blessed, and we so pure, that we can offer him tenderness? When a man becomes dear to me, I have touched the goal of fortune.
As to the wavelength to tune into: Friendship. Bring forward the Sincerity & Tenderness Emerson picked out. Psych Central is, to me, a giant anonymous Friend in the sense that Emerson meant. It's here I can be open to myself in the net-company of others. We can be tender with one another as we flop about in our hearts and souls hoping to dislodge the hooks and wounds of human interaction.

PC is not a blog space. I'm not here with my working or life identity seeking to impress or get hired. In the 200-year old cliché, to put my best foot forward. Here at times I want to swing free with my boot or sometimes my feet feel made of clay. I express myself. If readers don't like it, there are 1000s of other threads, 100,000 other sites.

Here, I will express my thoughts as it's in conversation with friends that fresh ideas emerge. The flow is direct and clear because Pysch Central shares it with living people who can catch my intent and support my explorations.
Revu2
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