My T is pretty good about it. She knows it's a thing but she doesn't make me feel (more) ashamed about it. She doesn't generally ask about it and has never asked to see, I don't think. We talk about it sometimes, but I have a lot of shame that makes it hard to bring up without prompting.

T has said she wants me to contact her prior to doing it, but so far I haven't been able to. It feels too needy or attention-seeking or something. I don't want her to think I'm doing it for attention.

My Pdoc (who I see weekly for some therapy as well as med management) does tend to ask about it more. She uses it as an indicator, I guess, of where I'm at. She has asked to see, though she's okay with me saying no as long as there are no concerns about needing medical attention (due to the injury itself or indications of infection).