I'm almost on the verge of tears. My brother made such a huge mistake taking my dad to the hospital in Pennsylvania. They were there, as is usual, for hours then they actually got my dad to agree to rehab for alcohol. Then my brother and sister took him to that place north west of Philly and they were waiting so long that my dad couldn't take it anymore so wanted to go home. Plus Dad did not find it to be a good match of places for him. If only they had gone to ANY hospital in New Jersey Dad could have been sent to the nicer places near us. The place my sister and I have discussed for months is a much better match for dad.

The bad thing is that the place we want him in requires hospital release for elderly, so Dad may have to go to a general hospital again, but in NJ, not PA, before being referred to the rehab/psych hospital we want that's in NJ.

I remember talking to my psychiatrist months back about getting Dad into rehab for alcohol. My psychiatrist, who used to be a psych/rehab psychiatrist at a NJ psych hospital, said to take anything that is offered when Dad is willing. Well, this hassle makes Dad less willing!

I'm sure the place we want for him takes Medicare, but Dad says that if it doesn't he may be willing to pay out of his pocket. I hope this is an indication that Dad still has willingness. The money is not so much of an issue as the lack of hassle and comfort of the place.

My Dad is home sleeping. Exhausted and unwell. Maybe we can start all over again tomorrow.