Justy, Please do nothing to endanger yourselves or the children. If Ex is abusive DO NOT LET HIM HAVE KIDS! I am so sorry you are going through all of this but you need to trust me when I say that if you just give in and get taken care of it will get better. You need to be in an inpatient treatment program now, not later and make sure the kids are safe. If you are more comfortable with the idea, in the us they have foster care that is voluntary when a parent needs to be hospitalized. It gets a bit tricky here though. You might look into it. Justy, You need to take care of yourself right now above all else. Please know that.