My college roommate is a pastor's wife (and I'm good friends with her husband too as they met and became engaged while I was her roommate http://www.asiamission.org/4597.html ) and I worked with a Southern Baptist's pastors wife for 2 years. Sky's right, pastors wives do have a much different road than we "average" people here.

2Hope, I would suggest you look for organizations like Sarah's Tent http://sarahstent.com/HowWeBegan.htm and see if you can find pastors wives there that have similar concerns as yours?