So saw a different T today and he was TERRIBLE. First, I got there 15 min early to fill out papers etc, and he is 10 min late getting me. Then he lets me out 10 min early... so I only got 40 min but it says 1 hour sessions on the website.

Anyway... he had this massive stack of papers and wanted to ask a billion dumb questions about me and my past etc. At one point he asked if I smoked or did drugs I said no and he gave me a odd look and then was asking about drinking, I said, I've probably had 2 drinks in my whole life and they were nasty. He gave another look and then was like "That's odd. most people in their teens and 20s really experiment with all this" then he asked about my dating history and I hate this question, so I said none and he chuckled and was like "No smoking, drugs or dates and really no drinking? At your age?" I thought it was seriously RUDE

This dude had a slow talk, really took ages to ask things and I realized that even though I don't want chummy/friendly, I want at least some understanding of my situation. This guy didn't hardly ask **** about it.... and he was annoyed I didn't tell him anything personal about T and asked if things were ever sexual. I said no and he's like good because that's reportable.

Then he said "So just very damaging and terrible at his job, this guy sounds like a jerk" I was so pissed off. I'm not here to get my T judged by asses or to report him. I love the man, with all my heart. I have no malice for him.

Then he said "So what have you done to get over it?" Umm excuse me?? GET OVER IT!?! At that point, I realized why grief/loss is not listed on his specialties, he has no damn idea how to manage those things.

I had explained twice that I wanted to know nothing about him and he told me he had cats and that he grew up in indiana, I was so damn pissed. I wanted to walk out but figured I better stay and get some of my money's worth. He seemed very stuck on the idea of me not being able to remember my childhood. Like ok, who cares? I'm not here for that.

He said something about how he hoped he would see me again and to set something up on the way out, I walked out quickly and set up nothing LOL.

He just was really off putting, too slow talking and very judgemental. I can't deal with someone who is gonna keep harping on T.

At least the other guy I saw last week, was fairly understanding, even saying he thinks if we ever saw each other before the 2 yrs, it would be like nothing changed. So he has a lot of BLAH things about him (like distance and 50 min sessions) but he's def better than this guy

So now I'm debating on guy 1, continuing to look for more or just forgetting it all together. I have my surgery next Thur and the Dr today told me it would be 2 weeks max of no driving etc so not too much of a delay for no sessions.

**oh and I had mentioned him writing a goodbye letter because he was going on and on about how this sounds like it was all so damaging, no, only the aftermath is... anyway so he was like "What are the contents of that letter?" umm none of your business man I don't know LOL