I don’t have an answer for you but my T and I were talking about it yesterday. I explained I would not be able to “remember” a safe place or even “imagine” a safe place because I have never experienced it. “Safe” is too far outside my range of experience. My T is very humanistic in his approach and I could see the pain in his face when I said it. Having done a genogram he could understand how very serious I was. I am clueless. So I am struggling with that question too. I know T said that learning to trust “starts right here. With me”. Yesterday he added a big list of ways he wouldn’t hurt me. All of them I felt were true but then my mind began racing with other ways people can hurt eachother intentional or not.