Welcome New Member --

Yours is an interesting question for me. Until I started coming to the Forums in July, I had no online friends. The computer was for work, period.

I think I would have questioned the relationship between a 26M and a 16F if I'd not had the experiences making friends here that I have. I don't see anything wrong or suspicious about it, if all is as you say it is. I think one thing that perhaps you can't know is whether the teenage girl has a "crush" on you. Sexual emotions run high in some teenagers. For that matter, in some of us who are a good deal older.

It is easy to fall in love with someone online. There is a great quotation by M.M. Kaye, the novelist, that I have to quote from memory: It isn't hard to fall in love with someone you don't know. In fact, the less you know about 'em, the easier it is.

Having given my caveats, the thing that troubles me most is that you are willing to give up your online life for a woman you have known only 6 months. You are still in the deep passionate part of getting to know her. Cutting off parts of your Self to please her is not a good deal for you.

If she cannot accept you in all your multidimensions, I think hiding your online life can lead to trouble down the line. Minimizing it, so not to upset her, may be okay. It depends on how minimal you have to make this part of yourself -- how great the appeasement factor.

I'll be interested in knowing how all this turns out over time. Please keep us posted.