Self harm was an addiction for me when I was younger (well before I started seeing T), now that I am in my 20s I only self harm every so often. Because of that I have never brought it up. She once pointed to cuts on my leg and asked if it was self harm. It was, but I lied and said it was from something else. She said "Ok, I just had to check."

I relapsed this summer and cut deeply on my arm. The scars are taking a long time to fade -- one is still very red. It's getting warmer and I spent all summer and fall wearing long sleeves and I've decided I'm tired of it, when it's warm I will dress warm. If she points them out, I will tell her the truth but also tell her I don't wish to spend a lot of time discussing it because it's not a problem very often.