I went to therapy & it didn't stop our fighting. We went to therapy & it didn't stop our fighting. I never fought with friends or colleagues either because they didn't do the things that totally pushed me past my frustration level.

You have no idea what is driving your mom to this point. It probably has nothing to do with caring about creating a healthy or unhealthy environment. In my case my environment with my H was so bad that my fighting was my survival mode. I was trapped from fleeing in flight mode so my only other option was fight (until I could finally flee).

Maybe this whole thing is not about your mom being horrible for fighting. Obviously I wasn't telling my daughter what all the fighting was really about because it was between me & my H. She is now 40 & we have had discussions so she does understand what was driving the fighting & she even understands now.

Is your mom or dad on the autistic spectrum too? Many times it is inherited.