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Originally Posted by darkside8
Forget crying, I can't even say the words ‘I felt sad’. It's always either ‘angry’, an emotion i happen to feel somewhat comfortable sharing, or ‘I don't care’, ‘it’s not a big deal’. Silly when we both have just discussed why it is a problem. When questions get deeper, I then end up minimising the severity of the brief content I have just shared, if that makes any sense.
She told me at the end of session to think about these opposing languages I use.
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If I were where you are at the moment, I think I would focus on increasing my openness to (as the Buddhists say) "things as they are." Whether it is the what or the how or the why, being open to communicating as clearly and as honestly as you can sounds like the priority. Or it would be for me. Tell yourself to stop the b.s.
One thing that was really useful for me was to learn that I could lower my defenses and then put them right back up. Try lowering them for the hour of therapy with maybe your T's help to put them back up before the end. That way, you don't have to worry about going out into the cruel world with them down.