I believe it can come from either parent, ennie. It's terrible when it happens. I'm so sorry your relative is going through this. I agree with all the others. Try to talk to her about this and see how it goes from there. Ask her if she needs any help. I think you have every right to step in, after all it is a relative of yours and the child is related to you as well. I hope things will get better soon. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you