You aren't ranting at all. You are in a difficult situation.

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All I want is a suggestion as to how to manipulate my mother into leaving me alone. Everybody has their triggers. So, I'm assuming there must be some way to trigger her into backing off or possibly even being pleasant.

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If I was in your position, this would not work for me. For me, focusing on how to get my mother to do something or not would still be focusing too much on her. In other words, for me this would be still part of the trap.

Ideally I'd use that energy for something else. One example might be to work with my therapist in figuring out the steps to complete a goal, like being eventually able to move to my own place. I'd get help in breaking down the big goal into small manageable steps.