I think a lot of assumptions are being made here that I didn't pick up in the op. That one needs a man to be happy implies that the person is saying that they are unhappy single and kind of goes off subject by suggesting the person should not consider this something to make them happy and that being happily single is a thing. I personally can't assume from the text that the op has stated they need someone to be happy or anything.

Seems the only question the op was asking is if and how to attract the type of male she would like in her life but a lot of the responses are going off on tangents here, imo.

to the OP: There are methods that so many will tout work for attracting one of the opposite sex and some may claim to be effective but out of context of the advising "authority" and their lives it's hard to say if even that advice would work for you.

I don't know if you're overly concerned with your looks but given the right circumstances and the opportunity to meet people with the types of lives and personalities you speak of, who's to say? Where do men that are your target tend to hang out and socialize? What types of things do they do? That's where I would start. you just have to put yourself in situations where you'll meet the type of person you would like ot connect with and go from there.