Maybe try one thing at a time? I just now put on some eye cream, because my eyelids have been so dry after my shower the last couple of times, they actually cracked the next day. Then when i put my eyeglasses back on to leave the bathroom, i looked at myself and was mildly shocked at how good my eyes looked. As you said, not AS tired.
My mother never taught me to take care of myself, it was always "it doesnt matter, nobody cares." So it takes a major attitude adjustment too.