To chime in here, to the OP --- what about other inner qualities in a man? Like qualities that are in fact more important than what you are looking for on the surface? For example, that he treats women with respect, that he has a good heart and treats others with respect and kindness, that he is honest, honorable and faithful? Etc etc? You mention surface level criteria but nothing about who he is as a person or having common interests as you.

Common interests is usually a good place to start, which is why I mentioned joining interest groups and singles group activities.

A man can be good looking, educated and have money and a career and can be a total *** of a person. So what other qualities are important to you?