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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66
So we've come down to flirting, eh? As a woman I find this troubling and deeply irritating. It seems so fake to me. I am as bothered by the idea of a woman flirting with and seducing a man as I am a man allowing himself to be drawn in by such. In fact, any man who would be so shallow as to be attracted to such really garners a complete lack of respect from me. Their is a dishonesty for me in this from both sides. I also wonder that if a man is to be susceptible to this once they then are likely to be sussceptible to it again (and again). Nope, I would stay away from such a man. This is definitely a turn off for me. In fact, nothing irks me more when I am out with an aquaintance than to see this occur. Frankly, I end up being disappointed in the friend and my opinion of them drops several notches.
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Well I will disagree a bit here because it kind of is a simplistic description and idea of flirting. I get a picture of what you're describing as flirting but it assumes that there is one type of flirting and that is one of overt sexual or other advances of some sort but that's not necessarily true, in my view. I mean in my mind flirting as I describe it is is simply showing attraction and attention to someone and being playful with it. It does not necessarily mean fake either, if the woman or man is actually attracted and seriously interested in gaining the attention of the person its not fake at all. Flirting can be as subtle as a look or a smile that shows the other person that you've noticed them and are interested.
How is flirting in any form, though, "dishonest" if it's about actually drawing the attention of someone you are actually interested in? It assumes that the intent of the person flirting isn't ever serious but only for romantic flings or at least without any serious intent and that is an incorrect assumption in my view.
this part piqued my interest the most:
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I also wonder that if a man is to be susceptible to this once they then are likely to be sussceptible to it again (and again). Nope, I would stay away from such a man. This is definitely a turn off for me.
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Susceptible assumes that whether a man is affected by flirting or not is an indication of some weakness in the male. What? Who isn't actually affected in some way by people paying attention to them and flirting with them? Susceptible, the word also implies that it's something that the male does not have any choice in and as if he becomes weak in the knees and under the control of the flirting woman. It seems to me that you're leaving out choice here and the truth is, even in my own case, as I said yes flirting affects me but that does not mean that I fall under some kind of spell by any woman that flirts with me, but I have the power of choice. Sure I may enjoy someone flirting with me but I also am capable of making it clear if I'm in a relationship that I'm not interested.