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Originally Posted by Buffy72
Has anyone experienced this issue?
I have known a gentleman for 50 years.
He and I became close friends after I divorced in 2003.
He was in a common-law situation at that time, but was considering leaving that relationship and dating me. Turned out that he did not move forward with me and remained with his CL woman.
He’s still with this woman today.
BUT, he still wants to be more than friends with me.
Yesterday, I found out that he is interested in a woman who just lost her husband from Alzheimer’s.
WTH? WTF?
This woman in which he is interested in is very wealthy.
I’m not wealthy but a simple person that loves life and non-materialism.
He lives beyond his means, but is wealthy, too.
My question is this....
Should I still be friends with this man, or is this my clue that he is just playing me?
Man, I’m really upset about this situation.
I feel like an idiot!
Thoughts?
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Did he know the woman beforehand? If so, Did he express interest with the woman before or after her husband was deceased?
What was the context in which he has expressed interest for you? Did you reciprocate at one point? Possess any feelings for him? If not, did you explicitly state boundaries on his liking towards you? If yes, that's concerning.
Additionally, it's debatable whether he's done anything questionable. Wanting to leave someone to be with another is better than the alternative, and being interested in a widow is fine, unless he makes malapropous advances to a grieving woman. I think more context is required if there is any, which is why i asked all those questions
Lastly you'e been close to this person for 16 years. That seems to be a long time to play someone. Clearly he has qualities that have made such a longlasting friendship possible. Even if he's a questionable figure, is he worth abandoning over the aforementioned?