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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66
This is not what I would consider flirting. Flirting is more than a mere passing glance or smile. It is a purposeful action intended on garnering sexual attention. It is an invitation to gratification.
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well that's where we diverge in viewpoints. by your standard that you describe I would agree more with you on your perspective of it
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Absolutely do I consider this an indication of weakness.
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Again I would agree if one is to assume that being affected by flirting is somehow something the male has no control over and is unable to resist but I don't believe that's true. I've been flirted with by women before that I wasn't interested in and/or I was involved already and in no way was I ever incapable of responding appropriately by showing no interest or making it clear I was unavailable. I don't believe that many people can say they are unaffected by flirting though, whether it be being appalled and off put by it or it makes them interested.
By what I believe is my definition of flirting I have no problems with it being used as a tool to garner attention from those that you are interested in. But by that keep in mind my description of flirting is not one of throwing yourself at someone and making overt sexual advances.
Also in my mind flirting is not necessarily intended for sexual attention. there are far more reasons to attract the opposite sex than going to bed with them. I believe that flirting and gaining the attention of those you are interested in is a part of real courting.
flirting can, of course include overt sexual advances and the motivations can be for just that in many cases but I have a less narrow definition of flirting itself so I guess that's why we differ.