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Originally Posted by Buffy72
Has anyone experienced this issue?
I have known a gentleman for 50 years.
He and I became close friends after I divorced in 2003.
He was in a common-law situation at that time, but was considering leaving that relationship and dating me. Turned out that he did not move forward with me and remained with his CL woman.
He’s still with this woman today.
BUT, he still wants to be more than friends with me.
Yesterday, I found out that he is interested in a woman who just lost her husband from Alzheimer’s.
WTH? WTF?
This woman in which he is interested in is very wealthy.
I’m not wealthy but a simple person that loves life and non-materialism.
He lives beyond his means, but is wealthy, too.
My question is this....
Should I still be friends with this man, or is this my clue that he is just playing me?
Man, I’m really upset about this situation.
I feel like an idiot!
Thoughts?
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Hi Buffy, sorry this is happening. I would say that by this man's behavior, I can't tell you what to do but I'll tell you what I would do, and that's stop associating with him completely. It sounds like you both have different values (he values cheating on his mate, with you, and with other women). It sounds like you like him. Do you like him and have feelings for him? Nothing wrong with that but you will most likely feel hurt by him as you are not exclusive and not together. It sounds like that may bother you. Just wondering, have you been with him while he was still with his partner who he is with now? Regardless, I'd find better people and things to invest my time in. You are a kind soul here. I hope you find someone or something that feels worth it to you and that
makes you happy. He doesn't sound like it.