Hello kes: I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central. 
I know you mentioned having done some reading on the subject of commitment phobia. So you may or may not find more to be useful. However here are links to 5 articles on commitment phobia & emotional unavailability from Psych Central's archives. The first article is by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D. Also included is a link to PC's romantic attachment quiz which you may be interested in taking:
What is Commitment Phobia & Relationship Anxiety?
8 Tell-Tale Signs Of A Commitment-Phobe
How to Deal With Loving a Commitment-Phobe
How to Spot Emotional Unavailability
How to Deal With an Ambivalent Partner | Love Matters
https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/rom...tachment-quiz/
I hope you find PC to be of benefit. 
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