Hello kes: I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.

I know you mentioned having done some reading on the subject of commitment phobia. So you may or may not find more to be useful. However here are links to 5 articles on commitment phobia & emotional unavailability from Psych Central's archives. The first article is by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D. Also included is a link to PC's romantic attachment quiz which you may be interested in taking:

What is Commitment Phobia & Relationship Anxiety?

8 Tell-Tale Signs Of A Commitment-Phobe

How to Deal With Loving a Commitment-Phobe

How to Spot Emotional Unavailability

How to Deal With an Ambivalent Partner | Love Matters

https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/rom...tachment-quiz/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.