I agree with ATAT's response above. I don't think it is a problem if a T is intellectually oriented if it matches the client's style. I think the problem can be more if she is incompatible with you and your expectations, rigid, and lacks creativity. Conventional academic intelligence and success does not require a very large amount of openness and creativity in every field but good interpersonal skills and adaptability often do. I think empathy as well, as I doubt that one person very often can just automatically feel what the other person feels - it is more often the product of imagination and experience, IMO. But if you frequently feel misunderstood or you feel that your thought processes are radically different, I imagine there is some level of incompatibility between the two of you.