It seems that her style isn't quite what you're looking for. You would like someone who responds to you differently. I understand that you would prefer her to respond to you differently. But she is who she is. She does what she does. Her package deal is what she gives you.

We don't have the power to change anyone else, to make them do or say or act how we wish them to. Ultimately, if what she is offering - if what she is - isn't working for you, it truly might be worthwhile looking for someone who is more in tune with what you need. (I know, it is a huge hassle to find and connect with another therapist.)