I am glad you are both looking for other jobs. There are low stress jobs out there though I acknowledge that most jobs with benefits seem to have a lot of stress. The trick is to learn not to care as much--something that may be the opposite of your personality. Hang in there.

Have you already made financial commitments toward your marriage? Spend very little. Is there anything else you can do to lower your expenses (like finding a cheaper place to live).

The only positive thing I can think of is that you are being tested on how compatible you both are as a couple. If your love can handle this stress then you are a good match. Someday, you both will retire and will not have to deal with some of this.