We had a session yesterday. The therapist said that she felt like I was controlling her about what to say when I said, "You're welcome" to her. I feel like she was reading too much into it. For one, I said it in a humorous tone. And two, I said it to put a close to that topic and move on to something else. She did write me a note 10 minutes before session expressing this. In it, she also said that she appreciates my bringing it to her attention. She also wrote that while looking up names that I think may be her patients, friends, or family is wrong, it is understandable.

I don't get how my looking up the names on the Skype list is different from how I looked her up early in our work and found a wealth of information about her and her family because of her ex-husband's public status. I even once asked if she had a twin sister, and she responded saying no. She also knew that I was reading some articles that her daughter wrote for a news journal. Back then, she said that what is public, is public. She didn't say that what I did was wrong. She affirmed it and said what is public, is public. But now, what I did with the Skype list is wrong and considered "snooping?"

If I kill someone out of self-defense, is isn't actually wrong is it? My intention wasn't to snoop.